Thursday, October 24, 2013

Night Weaning: The First Four Days

Well, it's been a while.

Currently, we are working on night weaning. Now, M has never slept well. And never, ever slept through the night. She is now 11 months old and I have to go back to work in 1 month. Ack! Well, I don't really want to be getting up multiple times in the night when I have to be on that bus by 6:50am to make it to work on time. So, night weaning it is.

Here's the thing. We are on vacation thousands of miles from home. But we are with my parents. Even though it is not her bed, not her time zone, with the help I get from my mother, I considered this to be an excellent idea.

The Plan: The first time she wakes up, get my mother to go in and hold her. Hold her until she stops crying. And no feeding. Any time after that she will get nursed to sleep by me. I am not a big fan of letting my baby cry alone, but I feel ok if she is crying in someone's arms. We have tried this before and it hasn't worked. But maybe this time it will (fingers crossed)

Day 1: M sleeps for 3 hours (pretty usual), then wakes up expecting a feeding. My mother goes in and holds her. It takes about 40 minutes of fussing, sleeping, fussing until she falls back asleep. She wakes again at 4am, meaning that she has gone 9 hours (9!) without eating. A record. I nurse her at 4, she falls asleep until her usual wakeup time of 6ish.

Day 2: M sleeps for 7 hours straight. This is not quite a record, her longest ever was 8 hours, one night, a long long time ago. I go in and feed her to sleep. She has none of it, and it takes 1 hour to get her back to sleep. You win some, you lose some. Once asleep, she sleeps until 6ish again. I didn't wake my mom to hold her because it was 2 in the morning... I decided if she wakes after midnight I will be the one who goes to her otherwise both my Mom and I will be zombies in the morning.

Day 3: M up again after 3 hours. Cries for 30 minutes in my moms arms, then sleeps again until 4. This is pretty much a repeat of day 1, except she sleeps in until 7:30am. I am not thrilled by the sleep in because once I start work she won't be able to do it, but hey, if it means I get some extra sleep in the morning then so be it.

Day 4: M up at 12:30 (about 5 hours of sleep). My Mom, who is still awake, goes in and tries to settle her but M is not cooperating, so finally at about 1:15 I go in, feed her for 10 minutes, and then she sleeps for the rest of the night until 6.

For some of you, this may not seem like progress, but trust me! Waking up once per night is absolutely amazing. Before this, M would be up at least 2 times, if not 3 a night wanting a nursing session. Please leave a comment if you have any further suggestions! I will keep you posted on followup days. My goal is to have her waking only once a night... Hopefully it won't take the whole month!